Incident which changed my way of behaving to others..

This is one of the unforgettable incident which taught me a lot about how to treat others.

That time I was studying in St.Joesph's college by Staying at New Hostel ( shortly known as NH by all Josephites). We have a good mess in that hostel. All the students will complain about the food, but no one will fail to fill their stomach in all 3 times every day. In the year 2000 - 2001 Rev. Fr. Samuel Jayaseelan was New Hostel Director ( warden is called as Director, shortly called D) who is such a wonderful person.

One night during supper/dinner time, around 7:40PM, suddenly the power went off. We were the students right? we need some reason to shout and make noise. Were we the exceptional case? No. As soon as the power gone, people were whistling, shouting, making noise, and doing blaw blaw things.
The next day night our beloved Director gathered we all people for the quadrangle meeting. We all guys like to attend the meeting. To be frank, not to know about the latest announcement, But at end of the meeting, boost and cake would be served. Just to have the boost and cake, we all attend the quadrangle meeting without fail.

In that meeting, we all expected that Director will scold us because of our misbehavior on last night. But you know what he said. " Dear friends, Yesterday I was seeing your real strength and enthu in the mess. But I want to ask you one thing, while you are having dinner at your home, suddenly the power gone off, If you are shouting and whistling as you done here yesterday, what your parents and neighbors will think of you. This New Hostel is not like your home? Is this is the lesson you are getting from me & from this New Hostel. This is not your mistake, mistake is mine, I did not give you the proper training to you people. Because I feel what ever you were showing your anger yesterday is on me not on this NH or anyone. If you have any problem here you can reach me at anytime as your friend. Didn't give you that rights to meet me as your friend?" This is what he told us on that day quadrangle meeting.

The next day, around same time (7:40 PM) during supper, the power gone off. You know what happened. One big voice about to be raised for shouting. But the voice was gone off as it raised. This time no whistling, no sound, no noise, no blaw blaw things, but a huge silence occur till the power came. This time we were the exceptional case from others.

We all guys wondered how it is possible? How a single person controlled around 796 persons by his words. This was possible only because he made all of us to realize our mistake, he made us to feel NH is our Home. He made us to feel that our NH director is not a leader, but one among us.

This incident told me how to treat others. Still whenever I am getting angry on anyone, I remember this incident and try to make the other person realize what he has done. So that, at the end, the relationship would be retaining as who ever done the mistake. Life is very small, Why we need to waste our energy by showing anger on some one or hate any one?